PurpleFrog
Kona Fan
adi-66":140ky25k said:PurpleFrog":140ky25k said:BoyBurning":140ky25k said:Sorry to hear of your troubles, but what relevance does this have in the scheme of things?
"Big Very dark african ish looking male..."
Unless you're giving us the description you provided to the police...?
People who have been through traumatic experiences tend to describe them as they appeared at the time. If the guy had been hammered by Arnold Schwarzneger he'd probably have said "Giant blond steroid abuser." The guy has just been seriously beaten up and may have feared much worse; it isn't the time to hassle for giving what you think is a politically incorrect description.
Thanks Purple Frog.... it want supposed to be a racist comment, but as ever people read too much into words on the Net. It was a description of what he looked like :?
After a traumatic incident you'll replay the images verbally and proceess them. It's an essential part of getting OVER the trauma.
And yes, if you're white and live in a society where most people are white and the guy who could have killed you was black, you will describe him as black. Do so. Part of the reason for talking and "processing" is so that you can get this up to the part of your mind that deals with this sort of thing rationally. Not talking about the fact that he was black is probably one of the best ways you could come up with of making yourself permanently scared of and angry at black people in general. He was black; the attack didn't happen because he was black; talk it through with yourself.
No, I'm a psych, but I have shared flat with one, read the books, and this is the Internet... And definitly but definitely, no one should hassle you for mentioning what your attacker looked like in way at all. If you'd said "Of course when I saw he was black I knew there'd be trouble..." or something like that, then people might want to remonstrate with you - but very gentlely, under the circumstances. But you didn't.