Is it really worth it?

I'm not sure how detailed I can really be, but I'm 18.

When I last had a job it was an apprentiship and I had to give over half my wages too my mother aswell as my DLA, so she was getting over £500 a month from me. I lost that job due to being late too often because I was the one forced to stay in until he left for school which would be whenever he got up because he didn't listen to anyone telling him too. The other people in my house left for work earlier or just went out so I was stuck in because if I didn't stay in he'd steal things. So I lost my job because of that.

Since then I've been looking for another job allover but due to my grades in school I've been able to get none.

When I was in school I spent 3 years living with my granparents because my family moved away and decided not to let me go with them. My mother never gave either set of granparents a penny of the child tax credits she was claiming or my DLA money so that's about £6000 she kept for herself.

I do save what money I can but it's not a easy task as whatever cash I do have I usually have to use on other things. I know my DLA was supposed to have been changed into my account between 16 and 18 but it's not been changed and it's unlikely too be changed. My mother has told me that if it is changed then I'll be paying more than the amount I get for it in rent.

Yes I do like to have the best parts available on bikes and higher end frames, but that's because it's my choice too spend more money on them when I get it. Unfortunately I'm not getting any at all so I'm getting nowhere.

Also as another little insight into my mother, when my father died the company he worked for gave me his pension payments until I reached 18. That too all went too her and I didn't see any of it. Same with my granparents when I lived with them. That was about £160 a month so that's another pile of she got..
 
Before 16 you aren't entitled to 'your' DLA anyway.. it's to help with your care.
If it's not being used as such then you should seek advice.

How can you be forced to stay in when everyone else has left?

To be honest mike your situation sounds harsh but the solution is reasonably simple. Move out.

You can get more help than just dla and your Mother sounds like she isn't worth worrying about.

If you sit back, do nothing and expect things to get better, they won't.

You got motorbikes and stuff don't you?

Bought and sold a lot of bike bits too, under this ID and your previous one...

You have the solution and it's totally in your hands.
 
IDB1":38t1hxbo said:
Before 16 you aren't entitled to 'your' DLA anyway.. it's to help with your care.
If it's not being used as such then you should seek advice.

How can you be forced to stay in when everyone else has left?

To be honest mike your situation sounds harsh but the solution is reasonably simple. Move out.

You can get more help than just dla and your Mother sounds like she isn't worth worrying about.

If you sit back, do nothing and expect things to get better, they won't.

You got motorbikes and stuff don't you?

Bought and sold a lot of bike bits too, under this ID and your previous one...

You have the solution and it's totally in your hands.

+1

Move out, and start to LIVE fella :)
 
I'm trying to move out. My housing application is sent, I do have a motorbike yes, that was my dads. My mums tried to sell that too previously, it's at my nans house.

I'm working on moving out. I'm in need of about £800 though for rent and a bond.
 
IWish":3u8daq10 said:
I'm in need of about £800 though for rent and a bond.

Got a motorbike you can't afford to run... worth a few hundred I suspect.

And you can get help with advanced rent and deposits too.
 
i'll look after your motorbike for you ;) seriously thogh sounds like you need to find out about local organizations and housing charities to offer you the best advice on getting your own place.

My wife's mother used to lock the food cupboards, so she went into a hostel at 15.........some parents eh...........best of luck with what you want to do.
 
I'm not selling my dads old motorbike. No way in hell. It runs perfectly and is worth around £2000
 
Things can't be as bad as you make out then...

That'd set you up in a new place for a new life.

Can't help some people.
 
sentimental value i guess, i'd find it hard to sell my dad's motorbike, if he'd passed away.

Is the bike resistered in your name as the keeper ? What bike is by the way ?
 
greenstiles":2zb5tx7z said:
sentimental value i guess, i'd find it hard to sell my dad's motorbike, if he'd passed away.

Unless my old man was a complete douche, he'd want me to have a happy life rather than a motorbike.
 
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