Let me see if I have this right.
FRIDAY...
You made an offer on Ebay for £140, he then offered you them OUTSIDE of Ebay, for less I presume, and you decided to go down that road ... presumably paying by PayPal.
This all happened late on the 14th, Friday.
MONDAY OR TUESDAY???
You had not received the forks within a couple of working days so you took it up with the seller, messaging him through Ebay??
NOW FORGIVE THE CAPITALS, I AM NOT SHOUTING...BUT THIS IS A BIT ODD!
YOU USED EBAY TO CONTACT HIM ABOUT ITEMS HE SOLD TO YOU OUTSIDE OF EBAY?
I wonder why you didn't just call him on the two mobile numbers he provided here on RB...
TUESDAY OR WEDNESDAY???
He got back to you, within a day or two at most from any time you might reasonably have expected delivery, and told you they got stolen.
Seller then suggested he would refund you with the proceeds from his current Ebay listings. Which he then did, within a couple of days!
Sounds like you were really turned over.
This is just the kind of nightmare one reads all too often.
Some poor sap buying something from a newbie, and being refunded within a couple of days when the item goes missing.
I hope you are not having trouble sleeping after such trauma.