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I use a Vango Banshee 200 tent and I have to say it's perfect. Plenty of room yet small and light. I'm so confident in my statement that if I had the money I would buy you it myself:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=k3z5adUoNPg
I use a number of stoves but the top three are my Trangia, a pressure multi fuel stove with a little pump on the side and a cheap and cheerful 'Highlander Stove' with gas can like the one below:
https://www.ebay.co.uk/itm/Gas-HPX100-M ... xy~dNTHgVT
As for plates and pans, I use cheap army mess tins. I've had them since the early nineties, testament to their ruggedness etc.
Buy a cheap spork, titanium if you're feeling flush but stainless steel is fine, I have both.
The only other thing I can highly recommend is the british army 24 hour ration pack, they are perfect for over nighter's. You don't need to take the whole pack but the contents are really good nowadays.
Paniers, Ortlieb Classic's, always. Pay the money and forget about your worries and your strife.
Thumbshifters or Gripshift.
Good quality tyres. Kevlar if you can.
Flat open pedals. DMR V8's are my choice.
Headtorch.
Nalgene water bottles and a bladder in your ruck sack.
Hip flask and a good book.