Missing my dad

[joe careless]

I find it’s very different life without him as he was also my best friend, things are plodding along just find myself most days wobbling for a bit, today it was buying coley (fish) in Morrisons, smell took me back to Grimsby docks and earlier being in his van on his fish round in 1970’s North Wales.

I need to get my shed sorted so I can just spend time in my personal space but it’s chocked full and it Needs sorting

 

[RickTheUncivil]

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Sorting the shed probably IS spending time in your personal space, is for me anyway. Might be just the thing.

Its funny the things that spark off the memories though. Not just items but as you say smells etc, the memory is a funny thing like that.

All the best

 

[Bowie]

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I know what you mean, 6 years since I lost mine, he comes into my head regularly, sometimes when I'm just doing normal things. I miss him terribly All the best

 

[MatBH5]

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Mine’s been gone 6 years too, I know how you feel. At some stage, those ‘popping into your head’ moments become somehow reassuring, good memories I guess, but you miss them no less of course. Anyhow there are no words but wishing you all the best.

 

[danson67]

TBH, now 28 yrs on since my dad died, and he still pops into my head almost every day.
Generally I feel happy that he is there with me, held with my innermost thoughts, rather than any feelings of regret that he is no longer here in body.

You are top of the ladder now, no reassuring umbrella sheltering you from above, but hold on to the feeling that your own thoughts, morals, body and character are all part of your father than lives on in you.

I passed his age last month...gave me pause for thought on my own life and what I've done, and what could be done with the rest of it.

All the best,

 

[Peachy!]

39 years for me, and I smile every time I use one of his tools...even more so when the boy uses them..

 

[drcarlos]

Only 9 months since mine passed. I don't think about him everyday as I'm so damn busy, but then sometimes when things are quiet it hits me like a train. I don't think a week will go by in my life that I won't think of him though.
Mum has only recently given his clothes away, I think her first holiday without him was the point where she decided that she could do it.
2018 was not a good year at all.

 

[legrandefromage]

Ha ha haaa!! <cynical hollow laugh>

Just be glad your dads were dads, hang on to those good memories and the special times you shared.

I'm jealous

Mine was a bastard, he's still alive somewhere and I hope he lives a long and miserable life so he can be reminded of all the lives he screwed up.

 

[skyhawk]

It must be nice to have had a father to miss, or a mother come to that

 

[CassidyAce]

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Bittersweet perhaps. 'Nice'... To have had a great father? Yes. To lose them? No. Better than having no father or a terrible one? Undoubtedly. Watching a parent gradually destroyed by dementia? Not 'nice' by any stretch of the imagination.