Depression is just plain nasty

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I'm back in the midst of it, only saving grace is that I can recognise early on. Seeing GP tomorrow, can honestly say that if anyone asks you to 'snap out of it'..
A. They're clueless
B. Slap 'em.
 
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Corblimeyguv":bzrcdg7m said:
I'm back in the midst of it, only saving grace is that I can recognise early on. Seeing GP tomorrow, can honestly say that if anyone asks you to 'snap out of it'..
A. They're clueless
B. Slap 'em.

My son once said "Just stop feeling miserable" then he got anxiety and realised you couldn't just stop feeling something be it depression or anxiety.

Hope you get the help you need.

Alison
 
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I had a long discussion with my neighbour in August about it. He had been sniping at me a bit about getting a job ( I am currently on benefits due to mental incapacity). I went to great pains to explain to him about what happens when I have to go for an interview and the fact that I end up breaking down in tears with anxiety and that it takes me at least a day or two to get over it and get back on a level again. I told him if someone offered me a job where I could just get on and be left alone I would happily take it.

He has been far more understanding since then, but I feel I shouldn't have had to pour my feelings out in the first place.
 
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People are often blind or ignorant to others situations and it doesnt help that neighbours tend to keep to themselves more these days. No chatting over the garden fence about lifes trials and tribulations, even more so now with Covid.
Also, men dont really admit about things like these either, do they ?
Then it's often the case of too late to do anything.
As you can probably tell, sleep isn't an option open to me tonight :facepalm:

Thanks for your kind words Alison, much appreciated.
 
Blimey. Forgot about this thread. Couldnt be any further from that first post.

Best to all, here for PM's if you need to.
 
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Corblimeyguv":1vh01d6p said:
Then it's often the case of too late to do anything.

It's never too late.

I've said it once, I'll say it again. Therapy - not counselling - is our friend. I highly recommend it: it's the best thing I've ever done.
 
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getting the help you need isn't easy. Huge waiting lists, triage and underfunded departments.

Even if and when you can get an appointment it's difficult to explain the extent of your illness and harder to get an understanding ear.

I've been treated like a number (which I am let's not get on the high-horse and think i'm more important than anyone else...) and not been listened to.

45 minute appointment with a junior who is out to tick boxes and works from protocol.

"I don't feel well, it's obvious to me and everyone around me i'm ill, this is chronic and debilitating and I need professional help."

Answer : "You're fine, in our professional opinion (after a 45 minute chat in which we touched the tip of an iceberg) we can't offer you a diagnosis, or therapy or counselling, go private"

This experience and others I've had over the years has left me disillusioned with the UK and seriously considering going abroad for help.

Having said that, diet vitamin D excercise and socialising helps me no end, no medication, no entitled thoughts, no promise of any results. I live with it. I get on with it. It's not easy, nobody said life would be.

Talk it out work it out feel it out.

Change your bedding, switch up your home environment shuffle furniture around to help break the default state and keep things new, cut out toxic people. Listen to good music. Try your best to use CBT techniques to diminish and reverse unwanted negative thought.

You can chip away at this. You can hold your head above water and tread it. Small victories everyday until you see the silver linings, even one thing a day you can do that is in your control and start to make small changes here and there... fall down 7 times stand up 8.

Your pal, Jonnymcenroe

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al-onestare":1bjd3arq said:
Corblimeyguv":1bjd3arq said:
Then it's often the case of too late to do anything.

It's never too late.

I've said it once, I'll say it again. Therapy - not counselling - is our friend. I highly recommend it: it's the best thing I've ever done.

Getting any kind of therapy is almost impossible, I've been trying for years :(

Alison
 
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al-onestare":qwjk4tk7 said:
Oh and meditation is an amazing tool. I don't use it personally but have seen the benefits first hand.

I did 3 months of 3-4 times a week before lockdown.

Definitely noticed a positive difference!

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