The "I'm not doing so well" thread

[CassidyAce]

I took it as being meant in the spirit of presenting a more balanced portrait of our canine brothers and sisters. If you show nothing but the fluffy then someone has to show the spiky?

I'll take friends of any species I can get! Generally both cats and dogs are ok with me and I'm ok with them. What they (and we) are gonna be like when we haven't eaten for a week might be another story..

Why won't you have eaten for a week?

 

[Jamesbike]

Life is not without shit sometimes you can dodge it some days you can't all you can do is face it...
Begining of September I was one knot from being at the end of a rope I typed how I felt on fb and it was mainly the RB crew on my friends list that fired down on their keyboards and sent some much needed love and support this helped a lot knowing someone out there gave a dam about me. Since then I've made a few changes I gave up smoking cannabis after a 37yr addiction that was tough on its own, I've also got myself a full-time job as a Land rover mechanic now in my 5th week its hard going as I've not had a proper job for 5years (normally I'd be in bed by now totally shattered). Home life is not the best but at least I have Disco to keep me company when the wife goes to bed at 6pm and then gets up at 4am Married life has its challenges too

Thanks for sharing your stories and for reading mine I empathise with you all I won't tell you to stay strong because you can't sometimes but always be honest with yourself if you need a hand you need a hand don't be proud ask for it and accept it

Much love Clive & DiscoView attachment 582271

Well done! My greatest mistake in life was not getting a trade....

 

[Jamesbike]

Rereading this thread to keep me grounded as more merde has just collided with the rotary air con. My ex partner of 9 years who was chronically ill and who I split from because my depression was making her worse is now dead, she topped herself. Now left with the frighteningly long list of what ifs, that might have changed this awful outcome, if I or she had acted sooner. You cannot change the past but jeez a time machine would be very useful right now.
God rest you Lisa, sleep in peace.

That's tough.

You only did what you did at the time, with the knowledge you had at he time, in the best interests of both of you.

Don't get hung up on it, would she have wanted that?

Chronic illness is tough, I'm witnessing that ATM.

Keep positive and you will get through it and come to terms with your loss and grief.

Cheers James

 

[2manyoranges]

VeloM - that's a tough set of things. The what if's are often the hardest to deal with. But in my own experience and watching close friends go through some very hard personal and family tragedies, even if there are regrets and feelings of 'why didn't I do something different' - the reality is that I see mostly good, well intentioned choices and actions, not deliberate or neglectful acts. Doing the best you can at the time, with all the tiny contingencies and complications, is pretty good in my book, even though things can go bad. I've never seen a life without mistakes, and sucking those up and moving on can be one of the toughest things....

 

[JIMJ]

This helpscheers me up when feeling down:

Tom Segura super funny comedian!

 

[torqueless]

Why won't you have eaten for a week?

I begin to think I'm the only person on this thread who's noticed interconnected crises like the sixth mass extinction, climate change, and a lunatic economic system built on the premise of never-ending growth, with nowhere left to grow, and ramifications ensuing therefrom. I don't know whether to be happy or sad for people with so much personal shit to deal with that all this stuff is forced to the back of their consciousness.

 

[2manyoranges]

I begin to think I'm the only person on this thread who's noticed interconnected crises like the sixth mass extinction, climate change, and a lunatic economic system built on the premise of never-ending growth, with nowhere left to grow, and ramifications ensuing therefrom. I don't know whether to be happy or sad for people with so much personal shit to deal with that all this stuff is forced to the back of their consciousness.

I’m not sure that things are quite so compartmentalised…on my part, I carry a substantial and permanent general gloom around regarding the macro issues you describe, act whenever I can (built Eco house, lobby politicians on these environmental and economic issues) and that general sense of gloom joins specific gloom when we lose someone, or other bad stuff arises in the personal sphere. Sometimes the general gloom trumps personal gloom, sometimes the reverse, sometimes on the bike - on an autumn day in the forest, I allow myself to experience a twinge of pure joy….

Ps watched first half of Inside Job last night, tackling the 2008 Financial Crash - maniacs wrecking the world through greed….

 

[novocaine]

maniacs wrecking the world through greed….

greed is now and will always be, the route of all evil in the world, be it greed for wealth or greed for power, it has driven the world the brink and there is no return.

**** me that's not a happy thought.

 

[2manyoranges]

NovoC the intro to Inside Job is really salutary, if you haven’t seen it it’s well worth it…a quick and probing analysis of the move in iceland from a balanced and sustainable way of life to unregulated mayhem. I regularly work in Iceland, and respect the place and the people a lot. But what they did in the early 2000s was insane. The Nordic model of balanced economy and social responsibility and collective accountability was thrown in the bin, with dire (and entirely predictable) results. Martin Wolf, who is a right-centre economist, writes simply and clearly about this: the market does not protect people or deliver equality, and the environment has been the perenial loser. He’s right.

 

[mk one]

I don't know whether to be happy or sad for people with so much personal shit to deal with that all this stuff is forced to the back of their consciousness.

Hopefully sad and concerned for anothers personal state, as surely that is what it is to be human. If there is not that at least then there truely is no hope.