Splitting up with my wife and kids any good advice ?

[danpiero]

Don't know if this is the right place to talk about this but have thought that there must be people on here that have been through this and am just looking for some advice and understanding . I know every situation is different . I have been with my wife for 8 years and married for 2 1/2 years , we have two kids who are 8 and 4 and we have always been very happy . The only hicup has been that in the last 2 years we have lost a business and i have had to go bankrupt and i have been out of work . We seem to have managed to get through it ok but she is now saying she doesn't love and i have had to move out , this is tearing me apart the thought of losing it all , i know that at the moment this is my best option and can only hope that maybe being apart might give her a change of heart . Thanks for reading and if anyone can send some inspiration or advice from any expiriences would be much aprieciated

 

[dbmtb]

Thank God I've not been through anything like this but came close a few years back - it can happen to anyone.

I think you need to get some counselling. Spilling your guts on a public forum wouldn't be my first choice.

 

[sgw]

I have to agree with dbmtb Dan. We are all affected and need to deal with things in different ways.I think you would do far better to talk to someone who really knows you.

Can only wish you well and offer clichés I am afraid. But it is true, things do get better and easier to cope with in time.

Good luck.

 

[rojo]

Sorry to hear this mate , not nice at all.

I haven't had it happen mayself but the wife was married before and had kids. Her ex is a nightmare and won't talk to her even though they have kids together. His new woman is a witch and gets funny.

Hope you can sort it out, if not just keep talking to each other for the kids sake.

 

[tintin40]

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I think you need to get some counselling. Spilling your guts on a public forum wouldn't be my first choice.

Agree. Just one i would say is you and your wife should agree with out getting lawyers in as that will cost you ££££ and delay the problem and make more pain and stress for you all.

I kept the lawyers out

 

[lewis1641]

Again not been through this but i am helping my mate with a similar situation.

.It is important to remember that splitting with your wife isn't the same as losing your kids as well.

Hope things sort themselves out. Good luck

 

[drcarlos]

Go get some counseling, for the both of you.
After what you have been through it would not surprise me if your wife was depressed and this will be seriously clouding her feelings.
You moving out and getting divorce will not cure this as she will wake up one morning and realise what has happened.
You both need a bit of professional help IMO, no shame in this as it helps to have an outside perspective with no bias looking in and telling you why you feel the way you feel.

Carl.

 

[grahame]

Get in contact with relate - this is very much their area of expertese.

There is a Relate centre at 4 East Street, telephone 01803 297854.

Good luck.

 

[danpiero]

Get in contact with relate - this is very much their area of expertese.

There is a Relate centre at 4 East Street, telephone 01803 297854.

Good luck.

i have already been there on my own they were very helpful but at the moment my wife isn't willing to go . thanks

 

[danpiero]

thanks for your comments , i know this isn't the best place to talk about this but its just nice to hear different views good or bad . i think only time will tell .