ASD as far as the NHS is concerned so far from experience it ranges from incurable (which is correct) and therefore prescribe anti depressants and so forth for the symptoms of it crashing with an NT world and the other is adults with Asperger's being treated based on the observation of Asperger children. The two are not the same, as those late diagnosed often towards midlife have obviously without knowledge of their condition created their own coping mechanisms with varying levels of success and tend to react when they detect condescending attitudes and we know what research there is out there is very sketchy when it comes to the late diagnosed so professionals in this field tend to defer to sub eighteen year old characteristics which is wrong.
I would have carried on with this completely unknown as I sort of rubbed along and was good at what I could do if it was not for a breakdown where everything turned to crap, lost my job, lost my home and lost my marriage, lost all my stuff and went sort of vagrant, sofa surfing. Eventually it was suggested I do art therapy to try and work out what I could not explain or put my finger on and it was in the art therapy the college sent me for testing for Dyslexia and I came back with a diagnosis of Aspergers and Dyspraxia, later confirmed by NHS on two separate occasions.
So towards middle age now and I am starting to understand and with that what I am beginning to know now would have helped in the past as I can quite honestly say the last twenty odd years has been a complete disaster and I have attempted suicide on a few occasions, but I had enough of being like this, this unknowing, I need answers, so where my doc appears not interested or condescending I will research for myself and ask the relevant questions and seek the testing necessary, because I want my next twenty years to be a whole lot better than the last. I seek knowledge of myself and will accept anything, if it answers the questions I have and as regards the xxy scenario, the mind stuff, I have chatted with some confirmed and diagnosed and they confirm similarities of thought. So all I require of the NHS is the testing and then the rest is up to me.