Getting old? Have you ever thought about it????

[Mike Muz]

Re:

As far as how I feel cycling , on a bad day I feel like a 50 something , on a good day I'm mid 30s . Thankfully , I have more good days
Seem to still have a competitive head on my shoulders . Just want to catch everyone I see in front of me .

Mike

 

[LikeClockwork]

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I'm 45 next week and have no kids, got rid of the husband 10 years ago....

I just feel grumpy and unsociable for the most part now I'm older and find people generally very disappointing

No telly, no ipod, no smart 'phone, not very up to date on anything 'modern', realised today I knew all the words to all the 80's tracks they were playing on the local radio station I had on in the car...sometimes I tut if they play something a bit too 'rappy'. For me the charts were something you listened to on a Sunday night on the radio, hoping Abba had got to number 1.

I always had fast cars, and used to drive them to and sometimes beyond their limits, can remember going far too fast on a cycle too, down a 1 in 4 hill, no knowledge of bikes back in those days so if a spoke had gone through neglect of tension, I would have been head first into a hedge. No helmet, obviously.

The other day I reached the heady heights of 25mph on my Kona on the road and I had to slow down, it frightened me too much....

Thing for me is the wisdom I feel I now have, in my younger years I was always trying to please everyone and ended up pleasing no one, now I don't give a sh*t, I really like who I am and if others don't I couldn't care less. I'm certainly not going to change now, when you're younger you know you still can if you have to. I feel getting older, it's actually the lack of responsibility I like most!

Kaz

 

[TGR]

Kaz - lack of responsibility = a feeling of youth

This may be the key. And i would not worry about any lack of 'modern' devices - a phone is only really good to phone people on.

Richard

 

[Mike Muz]

All very interesting and, unlike my usual wandering thread stance, but can we try and keep to why the change in attitude - i am interested in why we change and, perhaps, knowing why will give me a reason to change my over-protective attitude to my daughter and risk - and then MAYBE i might feel younger.

Does that make any sense?

Richard

p.s. the grammar above is poor and i know it!

I think as we get older we develop a ' seen it all before ' attitude , and therefore couldn't give a monkeys about new things . As a result , we sort of lose touch due to our own apathy . Get settled into a routine and don't like things that alter this way of life . Hope this makes sense . I'm happy with me , if others don't I won't lose sleep over it . Aches and pains where I never used to get them are a sign Oh , and I'm going deaf too :roll:

Mike

 

[TGR]

Mike,

A positive attitude - my Mum has the attitude 'like me or leave' - i have not got to that stage yet and i am not so sure i really like it - give me a year! LOL

Richard

 

[Neil]

44 and feeling it more often.

That's kinda ambiguous, ain't it? I hate it when that happens...

Where does all this hair come from in the ears and the nostrils - and why can't it just grow outta my scalp?

For me, the change in behaviour and attitudes has been a gradual one, but I suspect as much driven by circumstance, as opposed to purely the passage of time. Had I not done all that settling down thing, and having kids, I'd no doubt have a different outlook and see it in others who haven't followed the same path.

Something I've noticed in the last few years is the physicality of it all - I've always been active, and it's not so much that I don't feel anything like as capable, I just don't recover anything like as quickly as I once did, and find it so much easier to get injured these days. When you're young and in your prime you feel bulletproof as you ride that wave of physical peak, but that can often come home to bite as you hit middle age - my shoulders are testament to it.

On several fronts, I wish I knew what I know now, when I was then.

As to the change in attitudes thing - well it's all very predictable, in terms of behaviourism, and that, in turn, is affected by some biological as well as environmental aspects.

 

[LikeClockwork]

Kaz - lack of responsibility = a feeling of youth

This may be the key. And i would not worry about any lack of 'modern' devices - a phone is only really good to phone people on.

Richard

I should add, having no kids, I worried for weeks when my sister's two got into cycling and then wanted SPD's....I still wince when they click in!

So I think if you've got kids it must be so much worse...

I have a mobile I should add. It just only does phone type things though. Not camera and lap top type things. I have a camera and a lap top for that.

 

[The History Man]

The realisation that we haven't and aren't going to change the world or make a million and that it doesn't matter that we didn't helps.

Along with a shed, bed and prescription medication.

 

[TGR]

Neil,

Please explain -

As to the change in attitudes thing - well it's all very predictable, in terms of behaviourism, and that, in turn, is affected by some biological as well as environmental aspects.

In simple terms for me - i need simple!

I understand the physical thing, i had a motorbike crash in 1992 and i hurt my back quite badly and i am suffering with stiffness in it now - i can only presume this is what the doctors warned me about - it is not good company - but i am lucky to be here so i better not stretch my luck!

Richard

 

[TGR]

Mr History,

My wandering mind again ... when i wrote the initial post i forgot something which was in my head -

The Lottery -

when i was young (er) - 29, i started doing the lottery - with dreams of motorbikes and cars and all the usual boy stuff.

Now i think, if i was lucky enough to win, what would i spend the money on. I certainly would not be buying the bikes and cars etc - i would leave work. I think i would put the money away for my daughter.

How times change....

Richard

p.s. the explanation for the change may be responsibility