I'm a bit of a Clydesdale (more so now than back in the 90's) and FWIW my first carbon fibre (CF) frame and handlebars from 1992 are still going strong. The flat handlebars are now on my commuter and I use them every week.
Lately I'm also running a CF Spesh Enduro SL frame, and I have a CF bar on my Foes trail bike for over 3 years, including a few runs down the world cup downhill course in Kaprun, with no issues. That said, I have no CF seatposts as I don't like the pinching load in the clamp. Schizofrenic maybe as handlebars are clamped too, but it's my gut feel (at work I'd say engineering judgement).
The only handlebar to fail on me on a ride was aluminium, decent brand bought 1997, failed in 99, ouch that hurt. And let's not forget an impressive array of cracking aluminium frames, Dale's, Manitou's, Marin's and that's just listing my experience. Same goes for chichi parts, HO brakes anyone?
IMHO The crash that kills a CF frame will likely also kill a lightweight Aluminium frame. But with metal the rider is blamed for stacking it, or the welder stroke engineer for getting it wrong. With CF suddenly the material is to blame. Materials are not to blame for being abused, poorly designed or crap manufacturing, and that holds for aluminium and steel as well. It is true there's more to be engineered and more to go wrong with CF. But when designed for the intended purpose and executed proper it's perfectly OK. The advise about rider weight limits above does make sense to me, confidence in execution is important.
German BIKE mag did an impressive destructive test on CF hardtails and sus frames this spring. IIRC they destroyed 27 frames in all, 3 of each model and all the hardtails passed the test. Some of the sus frames passed too and the ones that failed did so on aluminium add-ons (alloy rockers, pivot points etc)
Apologies for a bit of a rant, just ENJOY!!