My dad used the internet to find his siblings - he was adopted at birth in London, but he waited until his parents passed on before doing so.
He has met his "other" family members and they stay in touch as much as any other distant relative.
The sad thing was, he missed meeting his real mother by only 2 or 3 years turns out she lived near me in Dundee for around five years. She had mentioned him to his brothers and sisters so I guess his initial letter to them was a little less of a shock, but they were still surprised by it.
Si you don't have to reply until you are ready to - or at all if you don't want to, although if they live closer it might be harder. My dad needed to do it (for his own reasons) and in his first contact letter he made it clear that it was ok to ignore him.
The funniest thing is he is very English and proud of it, but really he is Dundonian by blood just like my Mum. Their family were born in Dundee and moved to Kent and my Dad was born down there and moved near Dundee. I lived in Kent when I was a toddler.
He has met his "other" family members and they stay in touch as much as any other distant relative.
The sad thing was, he missed meeting his real mother by only 2 or 3 years turns out she lived near me in Dundee for around five years. She had mentioned him to his brothers and sisters so I guess his initial letter to them was a little less of a shock, but they were still surprised by it.
Si you don't have to reply until you are ready to - or at all if you don't want to, although if they live closer it might be harder. My dad needed to do it (for his own reasons) and in his first contact letter he made it clear that it was ok to ignore him.
The funniest thing is he is very English and proud of it, but really he is Dundonian by blood just like my Mum. Their family were born in Dundee and moved to Kent and my Dad was born down there and moved near Dundee. I lived in Kent when I was a toddler.