Education system problem

[suburbanreuben]

"Bouts of headaches and dizziness standing up" and you don't see the point of taking her to the doctors?
Headaches are one thing, but chuck in some dizzyness and it's a different matter. It's probably nothing but it's best to get it checked out.
If your doctor is crap, find another.

 

[technodup]

I know full well there is nothing more than a headache and that's what anyone would say with a medical degree or not.

No you don't.

7 years training and many more of experience vs your gut feeling?

 

[mattr]

Another thing to be aware of, from the schools perspective, parents are far easier for kids to fool (I did it often enough!). Doctors generally aren't. A Doctors sick note trumps any number of parental ones.

 

[Alison]

I know full well there is nothing more than a headache and that's what anyone would say with a medical degree or not.

No you don't.

7 years training and many more of experience vs your gut feeling?

7 years training? I've known people who've been in the medical profession 20 years and are afraid of their own shadow, and some that have only just started and can walk over the above and beyond. Funny when I had Amelia I had a midwife that was petrified of actually delivering a baby and she'd been a community midwife for 30 years, her new girl midwife was as cool as a cucumber, experience and training is jack shit to some to be honest.

My son used to complain about back and side pains as a child, he really was in pain, I used to suggest a warm bath and he'd say it eased it but would still lay there suffering, it'll pass I said, he's now nearly 21 didn't hurt not taking him to the GP. I get really severe chest pains, I mean really seriously painful no amount of painkillers treat it, I've had them since 13 never been to the GP ever, still get them and am 47. children have pains, adults have pains 99.99999999% of the time it's just life and if every time you had a twinge you went crawling to the GP, you'd need a surgery every two doors down.

She just has a headache, I have them, Joe blogs has them I've had headaches that have lasted a week or more, I'm still here, If at any time I thought it was above and beyond normal, I'd bloomin carry her there but they are just a normal part of life.

Another thing to be aware of, from the schools perspective, parents are far easier for kids to fool (I did it often enough!). Doctors generally aren't. A Doctors sick note trumps any number of parental ones.

The other two really do take the piss sometimes but when Amelia is ill, you know she's ill, you cannot fake the look.

Alison

 

[mattr]

The school doesn't know that do they?

And a headache that lasts a week needs looking at.

 

[FluffyChicken]

You may still be here, she may still be here and so might you're son.
They and you may of course not have to suffer with all the pain if the Doctors could help them.
And no Joe Blogs does not have constant crippling pains.

If your afraid of the Doctors then don't go, get somebody else to take them. But give the doctors a try to ease or remove the constant pain. Were not living in the stone age now.

GPs are here for this sort of thing, it is their training and job and in their title . "general"

They are not hospital and specific specialised doctors.


Get them out riding with you

 

[MikeD]

I get really severe chest pains, I mean really seriously painful no amount of painkillers treat it, I've had them since 13 never been to the GP ever, still get them and am 47. children have pains, adults have pains 99.99999999% of the time it's just life and if every time you had a twinge you went crawling to the GP, you'd need a surgery every two doors down.

Serious chronic chest pain is a bit more than "a twinge", though, no? Maybe if you'd been to the GP when you were 13 you wouldn't have had to put up with that for 34 years?

There's a natural tendency to not want to bother people with things, but doctors are there to bother with things

 

[Neil]

It's not normal for headaches to last 3 days, and that compounded with dizziness, tells me it should be at least something you've taken your daughter to a GP about.

From my own experience, had we not persisted with issues with my son, that one GP was quite willing to tell us was nothing to worry about, his true conditions would never have been discovered and he would never have got the treatment, surgery, and ongoing care he needs.

If you have hang-ups about going to the doctors, then fine - don't. But don't impose that attitude on your kids. If the school has contacted you about absence, and it's an ongoing issue that doesn't appear to be going anywhere, it's grossly negligent for you to feel you know better than to have a GP check it out. Even if after doing so, he / she says "Nothing to worry about" what have you lost?

If you were somebody I knew in real life, I'd be substantially more forthright to your face about it, and if that didn't do any good, I'd probably take it elsewhere. It's one thing to play fast / loose / arrogant / think-you-know-better with your own health and medical appraisal, entirely another to do so with your kids - they don't choose your hang-ups or delusions of competency.

 

[technodup]

adults have pains 99.99999999% of the time it's just life and if every time you had a twinge you went crawling to the GP, you'd need a surgery every two doors down.

I'm sorry but that's utter nonsense.

Until last month I hadn't been near a GP or hospital for about 10 years, because I have no pains. Last month I had a sore arse, and when I say sore I mean ******* sore, turned out it was some type of abscess I can't spell and it needed cut out. Long story short I made an appointment at A&E for the next morning but it burst in the night. Some pills from the hospital and no operation. Fixed by the next week.

This week I had fluid build up in my knee, couldn't bend it. Again quite sore but nothing in comparison to the arse abscess. Appointment at GP, some anti-inflammatories and two days later it's perfect.

I'm not one to go for the slightest thing, far from it, but when you need to go you need to go. For once I'm not the one in the minority of one. Get her to a doctor.

 

[rubydoo11]

you should take her to your GP could be something silly but a trip to the GP wont hurt.
RR suffers with headaches that are so bad that he cant move for days on end and is currently having one of those periods dizziness comes with the headaches too he didn't go to the doctors as a kid and its gotten worse over the years probably not the same thing but get her to the GP and be persistant with them. if the school are bothering you about her attendance its obviously affecting her education in their eyes. its not a education system problem really. If you don't take her and be persistant they might not be able to find out what the problem is and the school will keep bothering you about attendance.