Righto, I'm getting married next year and I'm struggling to choose someone to ask to be my best man. It's not that I don't have close friends, just that I can't choose between them. I'm also not very traditional and would quite happily not have one but the future Mrs Rumble has made it clear that this is not acceptable to her! So, the options (and problems) are...
1: My brother. This would be my natural choice, I'm closest to him of all my family. Problem is, I have another brother who I don't want to offend. Not only that but my family is split into 2 very distinct halves who are at best indifferent to each other and at worst openly hostile. The brothers are both fine, not part of the problem, but chosing one over the the other would incite the other side.
2: Mate A. Friend for over 10 years, lived with him at uni so lots of shared history, lots of common interests and a genuine lifelong friend. Problem here is that he's been best man for a few weddings fairly recently, including next year for my other mate, who we'll meet in a minute. Other issue is that he would certainly organise an epic stag do, weekend abroad etc. I simply don't want a stag do, don't like being the centre of attention and if absolutely necessary would just do a bothy weekend or something. Mate A is open in his opposition to this and would go big regardless, as he has done for Mate B.
3: Mate B. Same background as Mate A, we all shared flats at uni, again a really lovely guy who I'd trust with my life (same goes for Mate A though). Problem is that chosing him would potentially upset Mate A (although I'm not sure of that) and that although I really didn't mind him not chosing me for his best man (apparantly I was a close 2nd), if I'm honest I'd feel a bit odd asking someone who didn't ask me.
4: Mate C. Known since school, still good mates with him but he's got many other, more social, friends who he doubtless sees more than me. He's the rank outsider here as I'd rate A and B as slightly closer friends and he's another who has (rightly) chosen someone else as his own best man.
Hmm... that's all a bit rambling isn't it? Any advice, serious or otherwise gratefully receieved. I know it's not the biggest problem in the world but I'm not usually this indecisive! I've tried thinking of some creative solutions but my suggestions of asking the cat or a random celebrity (Terry Wogan would have been a good option) aren't acceptable either!
PS I hope no one that knows me reads this as it's not going to take much to connect the dots!
1: My brother. This would be my natural choice, I'm closest to him of all my family. Problem is, I have another brother who I don't want to offend. Not only that but my family is split into 2 very distinct halves who are at best indifferent to each other and at worst openly hostile. The brothers are both fine, not part of the problem, but chosing one over the the other would incite the other side.
2: Mate A. Friend for over 10 years, lived with him at uni so lots of shared history, lots of common interests and a genuine lifelong friend. Problem here is that he's been best man for a few weddings fairly recently, including next year for my other mate, who we'll meet in a minute. Other issue is that he would certainly organise an epic stag do, weekend abroad etc. I simply don't want a stag do, don't like being the centre of attention and if absolutely necessary would just do a bothy weekend or something. Mate A is open in his opposition to this and would go big regardless, as he has done for Mate B.
3: Mate B. Same background as Mate A, we all shared flats at uni, again a really lovely guy who I'd trust with my life (same goes for Mate A though). Problem is that chosing him would potentially upset Mate A (although I'm not sure of that) and that although I really didn't mind him not chosing me for his best man (apparantly I was a close 2nd), if I'm honest I'd feel a bit odd asking someone who didn't ask me.
4: Mate C. Known since school, still good mates with him but he's got many other, more social, friends who he doubtless sees more than me. He's the rank outsider here as I'd rate A and B as slightly closer friends and he's another who has (rightly) chosen someone else as his own best man.
Hmm... that's all a bit rambling isn't it? Any advice, serious or otherwise gratefully receieved. I know it's not the biggest problem in the world but I'm not usually this indecisive! I've tried thinking of some creative solutions but my suggestions of asking the cat or a random celebrity (Terry Wogan would have been a good option) aren't acceptable either!
PS I hope no one that knows me reads this as it's not going to take much to connect the dots!
