Tips on separation please.......

[greenstiles]

After being asked to leave many times, and sometimes over silly things just so my wife can have her own way, i have decided to call her bluff and go. Not nice as my son is just 1........he is the only painful bit if truth be told. The wife has hounded and driven me to distraction for too long....and it's only gonna get worse i see now.

So i have some work but not a lot, a couple of fine people have said they can put me up for a bit.......

She says she can't afford to divorce me, so is going to go through the separtation route along side her friend doing the same...hey they might get a discount !

I'm crushed about my son, but i'm trying to concentrate on the fact that there are many years ahead to enjoy with him, get my shit together, and be ME ! and not a slave. So he can see who I am and what I belive in.

Any tips ? i'm kinds scared and a bit excited all at the same time, past 7 years have been crap.

 

[widowmaker]

Sorry no tips here but wish you good luck :!:

 

[Grannygrinder]

Must take some bottle to walkout on a 1 year old, i couldn't do it. Feel for you mate

 

[Chopper the ex Copper]

No tips, but a reassurance that life will get better now it's yours again. Good luck.

 

[ellist]

You'll always be a dad. That's the important bit. Everything else is life getting in the way. Just try hard to do that and give it your best shot. No one nails that job.

 

[greenstiles]

Don't want to walk out on my son one bit, but i can't take him with me either, and at this age he needs his mum more, i'm just hoping he is not going to start forgetting me, i have brought him up so far while my wife went back to work early the only word he knows so far are ''da da'' so you can guess what i feel about this .....but she wants it to end too, she off to get the paperwork this week.................life just isn't a fairly tale i guess.

 

[xxnick1975]

wishing you all the best in the next chapter, but if you are married you either get divorced or not. what do you actually mean by "seperation route"?

honestly, speak to a solicitor that specialises in family law ASAP, you need to think about access and finances etc

good luck

 

[We_are_Stevo]

Keep your relationship with your boy separate from any bitterness that may manifest itself over the years...

 

[RobMac]

Keep your relationship with your boy separate from any bitterness that may manifest itself over the years...

+ 1 :shock:

 

[girlonbike]

past 7 years have been crap.

Couldn't have been that crappy since you have an one year old. :cry:

My tip would be to not be dramatic and think only about yourself and suffer a little to be a father to your child. Be in his life, make sure you share custody, and be a good man, his father, and be present when he needs you most - his childhood.

Good luck.